Anyone want to see codepoke eat dogfood?
So, I'm sitting here thinking about the remarriage question someone stated, and I know that I have no answers. That just means I have to think more, right? Well, what are the options for finding answers?
I could dig into the scriptures.
Well, actually, I think everyone has already done that. Probably ad nauseum. I doubt I'll find anything that hasn't already been said a couple dozen times.
I could look to counselling tomes.
Yeah, but duelling with counselors is even less satisfying than doing so with scripture.
I could eat my own dogfood.
That's a computer programmer's term. It means to run your company with the software you sell, as opposed to buying someone else's software off the shelf - thereby accidently proving that their software is better than yours.
Why don't I ask the seniors in my church what they think of remarriage?
OK. I'll do it!
So what will it look like?
I think maybe an interview for a report I'm going to give to a small group. (I remembered that they are old folk, and if I tell them that I'm doing this for a blog post, they'll all freeze up at the thought of the Internet.)
Then the thought occurs, that this might be kind of fun, other people might want to play, and the more people we ask, the more answers we get.
If so, here is my first cut at the questions I might want to ask. It will look like a survey, but I'm thinking of an interview nonetheless.
I'm doing some research for a friend who is going to write a report for his small group. It's on divorce and remarriage. He has looked at all the scriptures, but he really wants to know what some experienced Christians have seen in real life, so he is having some of his friends interview experienced Christians. Could I ask you his interview questions?
*) Do you believe that divorce is acceptable in the eyes of God?
*) Do you believe that remarrying a new spouse after divorce is acceptable in the eyes of God?
*) Have you ever seen a divorce that you think should have happened?
**) What made it seem necessary to you?
*) Have you seen many divorces reconciled?
**) Do you think most of them worked or failed in the end?
*) Have you seen many Christians remarry a new spouse after a divorce?
**) Do you think most of those remarriages worked, or failed in the end?
**) Why do you think that was?
*) Under what conditions do you think remarriage might work?
The first two questions are only there to get a barometer for how the other answers might look. I don't expect anyone who bans remarriage to say there are conditions that make it right.
Anyone have other questions to add? Rewordings for these ones? Want to do some interviewing?
I open the floor.