Kansas Bob hits another winner.
I have been thinking about posting on following the will of God, more out of ignorance than hope to be helpful, and KB hits the subject square in the nose. He starts right off with the heart of the problem.
Years ago a bible teacher told me to be careful about control because it is an agenda of the demonic to control and manipulate. This teacher also said that the Holy Spirit wants to lead us and not control us.
When I get nervous, I try to control and manipulate myself. That's the flesh trying to live in the Spirit, and I'm shocked when it doesn't work.